WHO PUT BULLIES IN CHARGE ANYWAY? @RRBC_Org @RRBC_RWISA @Tweets4RWISA #RRBC #RWISA @nonniejules
You did if you do nothing to stop them!
Of course I log onto my computer this morning and the first two stories I see are about two people being bullied online. The first young lady had been targeted because a photo of her had gone viral. She, dressed in a Tomb Raider’s Halloween costume, found comments under the photo calling her “Fridge Raider.” But, she didn’t just “take” it – she did something about it.
Next story: A cute little teenager stumbles across a page on Facebook called “theHotsandtheNots” where photos of her friends had been posted with awful comments attached to each. She proceeded to make positive comments on every person’s photo under the NOTS section of the horrible page. Once she’d done that, the bullies then came after her. Shortly after, she finds a photo of her on the NOTS page, but did that stop this cutie? Nope. She went straight to Facebook and asked them to take the page down because it was harassing and bullying others. The page has “temporarily” been removed.
A hospital spokesperson who was in the news piece about the NOTS page, says that they have children admitted into the hospital on a regular basis because of this kind of bullying. We all read the paper and we look at the news daily only to find that yet another teen somewhere has hung themselves, cut themselves, overdosed on pills, and engaged in too many other horrible acts to name … but they did it to escape the pressure of some bully.
So, where do I start? Do you all even have to wonder? Me, “THE GOOD MOMMIES” Mommy – I’m starting with parenting. It all goes back to parenting, and it always will begin with parenting, in my book. If you’ve checked out “THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE TO RAISING (ALMOST) PERFECT DAUGHTERS” trailer…
notice that I say, “I looked around the world, and what I saw, I knew I didn’t want my daughters to BECOME. I wanted more for my daughters. I wanted more from my daughters. I wanted the best for my daughters and I wanted THE BEST daughters.” All true.
Girls can be awfully cruel and mean, and even more hurtful than a boy’s fist to a chin any day. I grew up witnessing these cruelties in school, and times haven’t gotten much better – in fact, they’ve gotten progressively worse. So, factor the world wide web into this and you have just opened CANDYLAND to all the bullies of the world, who have a great big sweet-tooth for hurting others. And the gift that the internet keeps on giving, is more of these bullies; and being the cowards that they are, they sit behind the keyboards of their computers and their smartphones and they attack innocent people … innocent CHILDREN! You can’t even wrap your mind around how much the mere thought of this upsets me.
I have beautiful, sweet, loving and kind daughters who have never been bullied (and thank GOD, because I would not have been as nice as I’ve seen some moms, so kudos to them). But it just peeves me to see parents of these little monsters stand by, sometimes laughing, enjoying, and in some cases, even encouraging their kids to engage in this type of behavior – while they do nothing! That’s scary. If we want to raise decent human beings who will one day become POSITIVE, productive members of society, we need to start teaching them better, and that teaching starts at home (or at least it should). We have enough of these not-so-nice kids in the world, who are here just taking up space, infringing on the rights of all the decent kids who have grand potential to offer more to society. We need to ask ourselves one question – why are they allowed to continue to traumatize the innocent? This is not OK!
I know you all wonder why I push my parenting guide the way I do. I push this guide because I know the contents inside of it can change the world and save OUR CHILDREN! Some of you just walk away when you see parenting topics because you may not be a parent, or your kids may be all grown and gone, and you think none of this applies to you, or will ever affect you. But the children of the world really do need you to stop and pay attention.
I remember as a student, boarding a bus after school one day, noticing an elderly woman (someone’s grandmother, no doubt) sitting on the bus, close to the back. There was a pack of high school kids (all who were old enough to know better) verbally attacking this woman, until she was brought to tears. They called her names and one of them even spit on her shoe. All I could think as I headed to the bus driver to bring it to his attention, was that this was someone’s grandmother. And it could easily have been my grandmother, who I loved so very much. The pain I felt for this woman changed me and I knew in that moment, that I would be a protector and advocate for people when I became an adult. When I became a Mom, it turned into more of protecting children, and I am fiercely protective of children. ALL of them, not just mine.
BULLYING can be stopped. It can be eradicated altogether, but only when we all stand up against it. All of us, not just a few of us … all of us have to work together on this. We can’t laugh when some nut posts an unfavorable picture of someone on the internet and then join in the negative banter. We can’t do that. We can’t mock people just because they look differently from our own personal definition of “normal.” We can’t do that, either.
Parents, you need to really step up and know what your children are engaging in online. Stop being “too busy” to monitor the happenings in your house and in the heads of your kids. Don’t be afraid to ask for your child’s social media passwords. Be brave enough to let them know that you are on top of what they are doing and the kind of behavior they are engaging in online. Lastly, be firm in letting them know what you expect of them and how you expect them to treat others, on and off line. Take the time to teach your kids better. We are raising a nation of monsters and unless we start to take responsibility and stop turning a blind eye to all that’s going on right under our noses, this world will be safe for no one!
And, if you’re not a parent and you think this won’t affect you, think about that grandmother I mentioned on that bus. One day, if you’re blessed enough to live that long, you, too will be an elderly person and GOD forbid you have to walk out into the world, abuzz with the kinds of kids that are being raised now.
Who put bullies in charge, anyway? I know I didn’t. Did you? Well, if you sit by and do nothing about this problem, you did.
Join in this conversation, because we have to start talking about how we will do our part to help get rid of the bullies of the world. And finally, we need to put that talk into action.
What part will you play in putting an end to this deadly disease called BULLYING? Leave your comments below, they just might help the next person.