Do YOU Know What’s Wrong With YOU? #RRBC
No, I don’t mean physically, like, maybe you walk with a limp, or your ears are too pointy, or your eyes are crossed or bulging like my friend above. I mean “Do you know what’s WRONG with you?” “Do you know YOUR issues?”
We live in a very judgmental world and when I say we, I mean that, at times I find myself (unwillingly) being heavily involved in that world. We are so quick to point out what’s wrong with others, but, can never admit what’s really wrong with ourselves. So, today I’m opening up this forum for us all to freely admit and answer the question that we all need to be able to answer: “WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME? WHAT ARE MY ISSUES?”
I’m starting this off by sharing with you those things that I know are wrong with me and maybe, just maybe, it will give you the freedom to share your issues, as well:
*I’m a little too hard on people at times. Although I like to pride myself on being able to “read” people effectively, there are those times that I wish I wasn’t so harsh. I’m also thankful that my daughters didn’t take after me in this regards. They are more willing to give the benefit of the doubt than I have ever been, and they are definitely “softer” in their dealings with others;
*I’m a worry-wart. The world that we live in has me so afraid at times of what could happen to my daughters, that I try to keep them as close to me as possible. Yes, I know that before they were born their lives were already mapped out, the day they’d enter this world and the day they’d leave it. I know that in my mind, but my heart won’t allow me to believe that I can’t keep them safe when they’re near to me;
*I’m not that trusting. If I have found myself trusting you, oh my! You have to be the creme de la creme of the human race. I’ve been burned too many times by trusting the wrong people, and although I’m this huge people person and I hear how “personable and funny, loving and kind” I am, inside…I’m still holding you at bay until I feel extremely comfortable about your motives;
*I did mention judgmental above, didn’t I? Yes, another huge problem that I have. Recently, John Fioravanti shared Morning Inspiration with the governing board at RRBC that truly resonated with me, and this is what it said:
I must admit that for the most part, this is how I live my life. I would like to think that I am impeccable with my words as I tend to stop and think before I speak or write; I’d like to think that I speak with integrity….it’s extremely important to me and one of the most important lessons I’ve passed on to my daughters; I ALWAYS say what I mean and I ALWAYS mean what I say (ever heard of the book SUGARCOATIN’ IS FOR CANDY & PACIFYIN’ IS FOR KIDS?); Now, the part that says, “Avoid using the word to speak against yourself…” I need to stew on this a bit. Let me be perfectly honest here…I love me some me! I truly do! I think I’m almost the best thing since ham sandwiches, but, even in my saying all that, I DO KNOW ME BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE KNOWS ME. So, when I introduce you to all the wrongs of me, as I’ve done above, that is not me speaking against myself, that is me OWNING WHO I AM.
Too many of us walk around with this imaginary halo over our heads, as if we’re almost angelic and walking on clouds, yet, we live our lives as if we are the devil’s spawn. Pretentious, that’s the word I must use here…too many of us are pretentious. Pretending to be who and what we are not. I can own my good and I can just as equally own my bad. As a matter of fact, when I meet people for the first time, I tell them I’m a witch. That means, if I start at the bottom, the only place for me to go is up, in their eyes. I don’t pretend to be some Angel….because I am far from it (and so are some of you…you know who you are).
I’m going to wrap this up now, but why don’t you share with us “What’s wrong with you? What are your issues?” And, please don’t pretend as if you don’t have any, we all do. Remember, that you coming forth sharing your issues, just might be the nudge someone else needs to feel comfortable in sharing theirs. You can’t fix your problems or your issues, if you don’t first acknowledge that you have any. And hey, we don’t need to know that you never feed your kids before 8pm because you’re always running behind on everything. That’s not what’s wrong with you…that just means you need to work on your time management skills.
Now, tell us…deep, deep down…WHAT’S REALLY WRONG WITH YOU?