“Ohhhh, Now I Know You!” WHO WERE U BEFORE #RRBC?
…no, seriously, please answer that question? Who WERE you, before you became a member of the RAVE REVIEWS BOOK CLUB?
Before RAVE REVIEWS BOOK CLUB, these were the people I “knew”:
Kathryn Chastain Treat
…along with a few others who are not members of #RRBC. Back then, in 2013, I didn’t know them as the “people” I know them to be today. At that time, they were just @KathrynCTreat @BruceABorders @MotorCityAuthor and @VoiceOfIndie. Today, they are known to me as very dear friends…no, wait, I’ll take that back, today, they ARE apart of my awesome extended family.
Why are you asking this question, Nonnie? you wonder. Well, as my husband jokingly puts it when I’m pretending to be my uppity self, “Need I remind you of from whence you came?” Well, I also like to remind people of from whence they came from time to time, and in all honesty, the great MAJORITY of us, came from extremely loud OBSCURITY BEFORE #RRBC!!! Yep, I said that! You all know I don’t bite my tongue! That $#!& hurts!
Who knew you before RAVE REVIEWS BOOK CLUB put your name out into the vast World Wide Web? Who knew me? Who were you BEFORE this club put your book on a map? And for some, albeit a smaller map than others, it is what the club did for you; how many REAL Twitter followers did you have BEFORE you joined RRBC?; how many of you were having your books read BEFORE you joined Rave Reviews Book Club? Yes, there are some who need these reminders but quite frankly, I’m not one of those people, because I am gravely aware of, and forever grateful for what RRBC has done for me.
For those of you who follow my blog or visit from time to time, you know that I typically only blog on two occasions: When I’m hosting fabulous authors on my site, but ESPECIALLY WHEN I HAVE SOMETHING OF SUBSTANCE TO SAY. Today, I have plenty to say, but I won’t share it all here, as it’s just way too much, so, I’ll just whet your appetite a little, and since I find you to be very smart people, you can just about figure out the rest on your own.
I wanted to bring this reminder here for those who, since RRBC has made them known, now think their britches are way too big and feel that they can throw tantrums, fits and threats (not in the violent sense), and of course they do this, when they can’t get their way within our club. These people think that now that there is a world out there that RRBC has clearly put them in, they can move on (and speak ill of us and write nasty blogs about us…well, we all have to get our 15 minutes somewhere)…and for some, think they can thrive without us. Well, KUDOS to those who can! Personally, I only wish for the best for everyone. You see, I am a strong believer in Karma and I know without a shadow of a doubt, that when you wish ill on others, that ill comes back to you ten-fold, OR, as is said down here in the South: “When you go to dig a ditch for one, you may as well dig two, because the trap you set just may be for you.” By a show of hands, can any of you tell me what that means? I sure hope I’m not the only Southerner here today.
In my world, I believe in things being done “proper and in order” (something else we say down here in the dirty ‘ole South). I believe in treating people fairly; I believe in being as extremely honest as I can be in my day to day dealings with others (I’m keenly aware that this is not the norm for some); and I believe that when someone has helped you, you don’t turn around and try to drag their name thru the mud (or “bite the hand that has fed you or the hand that’s continually feeding you if you’ve been a member of RRBC long enough, because hey, who knew you before the club?”). Unfortunately, I am also aware that these are my beliefs, and honestly, I think that they are shared by very few.
I sent an email to my TEAM recently (the Governing Board Members at Rave Reviews Book Club), and it read: “I believe what people show me, NOT what people tell me.” Now, I like to use positive, inspirational, uplifting quotes as often as I can…I also like to use quotes that cause people to think, because some of us don’t even bother. We operate on hot steam, fueled by our emotions, and that, my people, can get you into a major world of trouble if you don’t check it before you react in situations.
Some of you may not have ever heard that quote before and may not even know what that means in the context in which it is written. I would ask Author, John Fioravanti, Host of RAVE WAVES “ASPIRE TO INSPIRE” BLOGTALK Radio Show to dissect it, cut it up into very small bits, and then spoon-feed it to us, but, John’s not here yet, so I will give it the good ‘ole college try.
Because we’re in this virtual world, where we don’t get to actually “see” our friends, or touch them, or even feel the “vibes” they may give off during certain situations, it is wise to try very hard to discern what is real and what isn’t; who is real and who isn’t; and lastly, who is putting on a “FALSE” FACE for us, and not revealing their true selves.
Being the President of the hugely successful Rave Reviews Book Club, I get to see two sides of people (on some days, sometimes three). I get to see the sweet, charming side that is “pushed” around social media so that you will all buy their books, and then I get to see that ugly side of some of those same “sweet” people, when things are not going the way they would have them go; the face they show when they are throwing childish tantrums; the face you all don’t see. I’m here today to say to each of you, don’t be an easy sell! Just because you see them “tweeting” someone else’s message (excited that it’s yours), don’t believe the hype; just because they invite you onto their blog to guest post (some do have agendas and sometimes, they aren’t for your benefit), don’t believe that hype, either…these people (not all…just the ones I’m referring to and they know who they are), know that getting you to their blog means more exposure for their blog; getting you to their blog, means you “pushing” their blog, and getting you to their blog means your followers will probably follow you to their blog. I’m not saying that anything is wrong with this, but I am saying, don’t be so easy to believe that just because you see these people doing these things, that they walk around with halos around their heads. Don’t be such an easy sell, that you are willing to put your reputation on the line for someone who may be showing you “FALSE” FACE; for someone you REALLY don’t know, because as the leaders of RRBC will tell you, we’ve been greatly surprised at some that we thought were something they really were not. #WeCouldGiveYouNamesThatWouldShockYouToNoEnd, but, we won’t, because we pride ourselves on “not stooping to the levels of others.” We always hope that those who sit so low will rise to ours. I say all this to say, that we’ve been fooled a time or two, as well!
I’m wrapping this blog up now, but I came here today to say, “Ohhhh, Now, I Know You!” and it’s all because of RRBC that I do. I’m grateful that this wonderfully awesome, welcoming club has introduced me to some of the most wonderfully REAL people who I would not have known had it not been for the club. I am so grateful that this club has led me to find some really great reads, some INDIE reads that I might never have been introduced to, because we typically aren’t allowed to grace the shelves of the big boys like Barnes & Noble. I am so very grateful that this club, the most wonderful book club ever, has brought such special people into my life, people that I can call friends and family, people that support me and stand firmly in my corner.
THANK YOU, RRBC for putting my name on the literary map as you have done for SO MANY OTHERS, even those who didn’t deserve it. But, I am constantly reminded that “no good deed ever goes unpunished.” Those who tend to speak ill of the hard working members of the Rave Reviews Book Club when they aren’t getting their way, will surely always be the ones speaking the loudest. And when you here them speak so loud, think back to the time when you heard them do nothing but praise RRBC, (check them out here at WHAT RRBC HAS DONE FOR ME…but remember, we won’t call any names), then just sit back and wonder what the REAL story is. The real story will be the one that only we know, but we’ll never tell it, because again, we don’t stoop so low.
So, tell us, WHO WERE YOU BEFORE RAVE REVIEWS BOOK CLUB?