TACT defined by my best friend (Mr. Dictionary) is:  a keen sense of what to say or do to avoid giving offense;  skill in dealing with difficult or delicate situations.

Isaac Newton once said:  TACT is the art of making a point, without making an enemy.

Well, said, Mr. Newton (and you, too, Mr. Dictionary!)

All of this brings me to my “issue” for today.  So, as I turned on my trusted companion (my computer), the first bit of news I’m hit with, is something about one of my top 3 most favorite artists…ADELE.

Adele is giving a concert in Verona, Italy on Sunday, and  it seems there is an excited ADELE FAN who is openly recording the concert with her video cam, and I suppose, as it was written, she even has it hoisted on a tripod.

Ms. Adele stops and says to this overzealous ADELE FAN“Yeah, I want to tell that lady, as well, can you stop filming me…this isn’t a DVD, this is a real show…I’d really like you to enjoy my show because there’s lots of people outside that couldn’t come in.”

I have given you the best parts of what she said here and there is more, but I’d like for you to see it with your own eyes and hear it with your own ears…as it is a tad unbelievable and shocking…(at least in my eyes, it is)…

 Was I right?  Not only did she let those words come from her mouth, she even turned away, rolled her eyes, and mouthed something that couldn’t have been at all pleasant, still directed at the ADELE FAN, I’m sure.

Now, I am an artist (just like Adele), I’m an Author, so I do “get” where she’s coming from…we hate it when someone is blatantly “stealing” our work, which is also our livelihood.  But, that being said, I simply abhor bad behavior, anywhere and at anytime.  I mean, did she have to publicly embarrass this woman, this ADELE FAN?  NO.  Couldn’t she have asked one of her team members to discreetly ask the woman to stop recording with her video camera? YES!  She absolutely could have taken that tactful and decent approach.

But, because she knew that she had the backing of all those other Adele fans (you know, the ones who were cheering her on for this public display of poor behavior), she chose to embarrass this ADELE FAN, who had spent her time and hard-earned money to come out and show her support of her, Adele, only to, in the end, make a public spectacle of herself.

*Need I remind Ms. Adele that this woman did “pay” to come and see you and I’m sure the money that she forked over to “see” you, was possibly equivalent to a car payment (or two).*

When I went to grab the video from YouTube, I was pleased to know that there were some who had taken the time to comment on this poor behavior displayed by Ms. Adele, and those comments depicted their displeasure, as well.  Take a look at some of those comments below…

*”This is what happens when you let fame get to your head.  Your fan paid to see you and might have wanted to record the moment she got to meet her hero, now you’ve just humiliated her in front of thousands of people;” 

*”Arrogance…totally unncessary:”

and my favorite…

*”This is what happens when you start treating celebrities like they’re Gods.”

BINGO!  SO TRUE!  So, for all those Adele fans who chose to “back her up” in her public display of poor behavior, I hope you don’t ever make the mistake and over-step at one of her concerts, because then, you may be on the receiving end of her AS-ININE, pompous behavior.

Every day we wake up with choices.  Even those men and women who are incarcerated, although extremely limited, still wake up with choices.  WE can either make it a great day (or not), we can choose to be happy (or not), and we can also choose to be kind to others (or not).  Adele, you were wrong on so many levels, and sadly, the one thing I loved about you, your candor, is the one thing that has turned me off to you today.  You should make a public apology to this woman and to all the fans and kids who might have been watching you, to let them know that it is never OK to mistreat, demean or intentionally embarrass anyone, publicly or privately.  That my dear, would prove you BIGGER than any high that fan was going to get when she got home and shared YOU, with her family (her husband and kids, maybe), who couldn’t afford to come out to see you (because they couldn’t lose both cars, right?).

**Need I remind “fans,” that you have the power to make or break these people who you put up on these pedestals, and you put them up so high, that they tend to “look down” on other people.  Stop spending your hard-earned money on the concerts of these people who have forgotten that they are people, just like you, and then they’ll start begging you to show up, for FREE (and your video cam will be welcome to!)**

So, I sing this to the tune of, and in honor of, our ADELE:

“Hello, it’s me, I didn’t realize how ugly and mean your spirit could be.  Hellloooo, can you hear me, the last dollar I spent on your music was the last you’ll ever see from me….there’s such a difference, between us…and a million ‘kinds’…..Hello from the kind siiiiiiiiiiddddddeeeee, you could have chosen what was riiiiiiiiiggghhhhhttt, but you chose to, break her poor heart, but it doesn’t matter, ’cause you’ve already charged….her credit card.”

I hope you all will choose to make it a great day today, or not, the choice is ALWAYS ALL YOURS!!!

See you next time and I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below!  What did you think of Adele’s behavior?  Yay or Nay?


  1. In today’s day and age, it is impossible to stop people from recording anything. I think that is one of the many reasons why prices have gone up so much. Bootleg versions of everything make the artists want to charge more to try to get their money through whatever means necessary.

    That being said, humiliating anyone is NEVER okay. She could have simply made a general comment to the entire crowd about enjoying the moment and following the rules given to them about NOT recording her entire performance. There were probably many others in the audience who were recording her show as well, and they were not called out.

    Technology has many benefits, but it has also tainted our world. Society has become completely obsessed with drama and pointing out other people’s faults to deflect their own misgivings. People are glorified when they bash and embarrass others. It’s sad and it’s shameful.

    I do my best to uplift others and to stay away from the negativity of the world. I try to keep my opinions to myself as much as possible in order prevent myself from feeding the frenzy. There is already enough negativity in the world. If I’m going to add any energy to my environment, I want it to be positive. Sadly, not everyone feels that way. :-/


  2. Mar

    I hadn’t heard about this, Non, so I am really shocked. Like you, I’ve always enjoyed Adele as an artist, so this news is very disappointing. It’s sad how things are nowadays, how people act, how people are treated. It’s heart-breaking. And beyond ridiculous!

    Thank you for sharing this, and for sharing your thoughts. I completely agree. We should make the most of each day we are blessed with, with a positive outlook, with good thoughts, with kindness and love.


  3. If one is bad, one is bad. Fame simply made Adele believe she is beyond reproof. It is sad. When I read about that incident on the internet, it made me do a double turn, then I went back and read the news again. My first thought was, “girl, you just lost a lot of fans.” And that is as simple as that. Now people know what she is capable of doing. What she did was not a mistake, nor was it done on impulse. It is in her character.
    Thank you Nonnie for addressing this.


  4. Sometimes I have to remind myself to put down the camera and enjoy the moment. Perhaps next time one of her staff can discreetly suggest that to the errant fan. Public calling outs rarely end well for either party. When I was teaching, I quickly learned to pull students outside if they needed correcting. Doing it in front of everyone is cruel and escalating.


  5. I did watch the video, and I thought that she handled it fairly well for someone who decided to speak up about it. Personally, I think she should have handled it with more tact and ask someone on her crew to deal with it. I didn’t see any eye rolling, but I think that’s because my eyes are not good enough to pick up movement that small. I didn’t hear her say anything particularly rude, and I absolutely can’t why she didn’t want to be filmed, but I do think she should not have commented on it herself, from the stage. I also think that the lady was wrong to film her. Every concert that I have ever gone to has had large signs saying that cameras are not allowed, but Beem s right. The cameras on cell phones are excellent, and peoplbe who perform on stage have to expect a certain degree of filming to go on.

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    • Yes, Rhani, you would definitely have had to seen her actions after she moved the microphone away from her mouth. Just horrible.


  6. I am closely involved with lots of Texas music artists and most of them are humble and grateful for the fans who enjoy their music. But, once in a while, there has to be one whose ego is bigger than his talent and that is unfortunate. I loved one line in particular from this post, “every day we wake up with choices.” So true!! Great post, Nonnie.

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    • Thanks, Jan! But, it is true, we do wake up with choices every day and it is up to us how we decide to use those choices.

      One of my new favorite shows is called SOUTHERN CHARM on Bravo TV and there is this one character by the name of Shep. He’s such a ladies man and handsome, too, but what I love about him is that he is always the peacemaker and always encouraging kindness.

      He says: “It’s so much easier to just be kind to people.” I agree…it truly is.


  7. Well, it’s not as bad as in the 1970s and 1980s, when managers of performers would send thugs into the audience to confiscate cameras and recording devices, while also giving the offender a knock upside the head. With cell phone cameras so prevalent in today’s world, many concert goers haven’t a clue as to how to behave and enjoy the moment. Everything is a “must record” moment to so many. See an accident? Hey, why not record the carnage rather than help the injured? It’s really a shame we’re at this point.

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    • In all honesty, I didn’t know that they even allowed these recording devices inside of the concerts. Mind you, the last grown-up concert I went to was Prince’s PURPLE RAIN and the only ones since then, have involved The Jonas Brothers, Selena Gomez and Hannah Montana -_____________________-. (Yep, I’m that mom).

      But, regardless, my issue here was her rudeness and the fact that she held all the power with that microphone in her hand, and an audience of loyal followers…she could have used that power for something greater and better. When you reach her level of success, you have “people” and you never have to say a word or even get your hands dirty when you have those “people.”

      Thanks, Beem!

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