Day #25 of #RRBC’s #ADayInMyLife 30-Day #Blogging Challenge! Come on along! @NonnieJules @RRBC_Org @RRBC_RWISA @Tweets4RWISA #OnlineSafety #Stalkers
Thursday, January 26, 2023
One of our beautiful members of RRBC sent a note to Paula asking if I felt that her blog posts in the RRBC 30-Day Blogging Challenge were giving away too much information. Instead of replying to her message first, because I will be replying to her message personally, I thought that I would share some tips on what not to share when you’re blogging, or posting around other areas of social media, IF you care about your safety and that of your family.
Here are my top 20 HUGE NO-NOS:
- Never share your home or work address
- Never share the name of your subdivision
- Never share your current location; be careful of posting pictures that show where you are
- Never post when you’re going on vacation. And, if you already have your very own stalker, it isn’t a good idea to post where you are while on vacation
- Never share your full birthdate, which would include the year you were born
- Never share your phone number
- Never share the city and state where your adult children live
- Never post your adult children’s full names online. That is their info to share if they wish – not yours
- Never post photos of your teen or adult children without asking their permission first. Sharing of their likeness should be their choice – not yours
- Never share the name of the company you work for
- Never share the name of the company your teen or adult children work for
- Never take a photo in front of your home which might display the numbers to your home
- Never share the name of your children’s or grandchildren’s schools or the name and location of their extracurricular activities
- Never share the name of your young adult children’s college or university
- Never share the name of the senior living facility where your elderly parents live
- If you have already shared what city and state you live in, never share the location of the places you frequent (i.e. grocery stores, drycleaners, movie theaters, malls, public parks, etc.)
- Never share the make, model, and color of your car. (I remember when my daughter got her first car and asked if she could post it on social media. My response: “NO! Your real friends and family will see you driving around. Strangers (aka STALKERS) don’t need to know what you drive.”
- When showing off your new car (or your old one), ensure that your license plate isn’t in the photo
- Be careful about posting pictures of your young children or grandchildren online. If you have a private Facebook or Twitter account for you to share with family only, then that might be OK, but, consider this: your family members could take snapshots or download photos that you post and share them outside of your private arena. My advice, don’t post photos of your kids online! Send via email or snail mail, and always let your friends and family know how you feel about having your photos posted online
- Don’t post about your expensive handbags, shoes, jewelry, etc. Don’t become a victim like Kim Kardashian, Dorit Kemsley, Marlo Hampton, Kyle Richardson, Gigi Hadid, and many more! You shouldn’t be bragging anyway. If you’re not going to share those goodies with us, we don’t need to even know about them.
You may have been tweeting or chatting with someone for the past ten years, but, you don’t really know who anyone is behind your computer screen. You might think you know, but, what if the person you have been chatting with, who you have never met in person, who you have never spoken to over the phone, or heard their voice… looks like him/her below? (We don’t know who is behind that hoodie, do we?)
Some of you are wondering how, by sharing some of the items above, you could be jeopardizing your and your family’s safety, and I could easily give you a scenario (aka really good reason) why you should refrain from sharing each one online. But, why would I help the stalkers and other crazies lurking behind keyboards, by sharing that information publicly? If you want to email me to ask about any of the items listed, you can send your inquiries through to Paula.
I am not sharing any of this to frighten you (or maybe I am), but to make you aware of some of the things that you SHOULD keep off of social media to keep you and your family safe, because when you overshare, you make yourself (AND your family) a huge target, and in a really bad way.
If you are blogging in the challenge and you feel that you have overshared, it’s OK to go back and clean up some of those posts (but hurry… the internet moves quickly and it has a long memory). Remove that information that I may have included as one of my Top 20’s above.
Remember, loose lips sink ships. Your loose lips would be your oversharing. Your sinking ship, would be your safety.
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Nonnie, I’ve been thinking about some of my posts. Some were pretty personal, especially the family drama. Should I go back and clean it up?
It’s been on my mind. When I get time I’ll do a review.
Thanks Nonnie for bringing it to our attention.
Thanks, Nonnie. This challenge is the first time I’ve shared family pictures, but I was careful not to say names or where family members live. I’ve shared pictures of my adult children in old photos but never my grandchildren. My daughters don’t mind their pictures online but not their children. Since I’d considered writing a book about my family, I decided to post a few articles. From this experience, I’ve learned I feel exposed after writing about inlaw issues, although it’s helped me confront them. After the challenge, I might remove them, but I’m happy with the articles about my parents and brother. I’ve faced my demons, and the posts have done their job.
Thanks for sharing, Nonnie! Watching out for us, as always.
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Wonderful advice, Nonnie. Thanks so much for sharing! : )
Donna M. Atwood
D M Atwood
Nonnie, your advice is great. Too many people I know post stuff they should not. They may think I am a grouchy old man, but I never post anything that is personal. As you said, the people I know already know about my family and where I live. I do not know why another other person should care, other than the bad ones.
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Excellent list. I would also add not to share situations of your family members or friends when you have not asked for permission to share.
I couldn’t agree more, Nonnie, especially when it comes to pictures and details about children and grandchildren.
The internet is forever. Once information is posted, it can be used years later. Names, addresses, birthdates, work locations and family member names can be combined to gather enough information for a stalker, an identity thief or a burglar to cause a lot of trouble.
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Wise words,as always !
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Great tips, Nonnie! Thanks for sharing!
Yvette M Calleiro 🙂